College Roommate Tips
What To Do If Your Roommate Stops Paying Their Rent
Unfortunately, your roommate has stopped paying their portion of the rent. This is a very stressful situation for all parties involved, but there are certain things you should do in these cases. Whether your roommate is a long-time friend or simply someone you share space with, you need to go about this logically. Follow these actions, in no particular order, to try and get this resolved as quickly as possible.
Communicate Expectations With Your Roommate
You should speak openly with your roommate to understand why they have not been paying rent. It could be something as simple as they happened to forget, or it could be that they haven’t been making enough money. While you can sympathize with them over a bad situation, this is causing you a lot of stress while putting the full burden of the rent on your shoulders.
By having an open and honest conversation with your roommate, you may be able to resolve things quickly or come up with some other kind of compromise or plan that works best for both of you going forward, such as negotiating a different type of rent based on room size..
You may consider having this conversation with a neutral third party present to help keep things civil. This should not be a friend of either of you, but someone who is completely unaffected by the situation, such as a professional mediator.
If this conversation does not end on a positive note, it may be time for more drastic measures such as legal action.
Talk to Your Landlord
Talking to your landlord about the situation is always a good idea, seeing as they are in charge of the property. While not all landlords are willing to help as they might not care who exactly pays the full price of the rent, they may be able to start the eviction process better than you can on your own and redraft a lease naming you the sole person responsible for rent. They can help you change the locks while your roommate is out for a bit and help provide any further documentation that we’ll talk about later.
Talk to Your Roommate’s Parents
It may sound silly, but if you are able to speak with your roommate’s parents, do it! While it can be a mistake sometimes, if your roommate learned this poor behavior from them, it is possible that it works in your favor.
There are many people in your situation who reach out to the parents, who end up being appalled by their child’s behavior and make them pay you everything you owe or pay on their child’s behalf. It’s possible they’re paying the rent to your roommate, who then uses it for other funds. You have nothing to lose, you may as well swing for it and hope for the best!
Document Everything
If this situation continues to escalate, you may want to try to evict your roommate or take them to civil court to pay you the rent they owe. If this is the case, you need to keep copies and document absolutely everything. This goes from major documents such as the lease and a roommate agreement, proof of your rental payments and extra payments to cover their half, to smaller but still important things such as screenshots of texts, emails, any receipts, and notes or recordings of any phone calls you two share. Even if you end up not needing it, having it in your back pocket to help and prove your case is worth it.
Be Petty
At this point, if your roommate isn’t paying or helping, you want them to move out. This is your time to be as petty as possible to make living there rent-free difficult for them. Do you pay for the internet while they use it? Change the password so they can’t use it anymore. Hide or lock up any groceries you purchased on your own so they can’t mooch off of those either.
While this may sound childish, you are entitled to keep all of what is yours if they’re not contributing an equal share to your apartment. They have already made living difficult for you, it is about time you return the favor. However, be careful that you don’t break any laws, such as vandalism, as in destroying their property or threatening bodily harm. Keep everything to a minor or major inconvenience that will make your roommate want to move out.
This is a stressful situation that no one wants to be in, so hopefully this guide can help you get everything sorted out and under control so this burden no longer grows on you. Don’t be afraid to take necessary action so that you can revert back to living in peace.
Roommate Dynamics: How to Be Friends, Not Just Co-Tenants
If you are a college student who lives in an off-campus house or apartment, you likely have a roommate. While many people have roommates they know, you may not have met your roommate before this semester. It can be challenging to live with someone you do not know that well, but it is possible to move from just being co-tenants to being friends with your roommate.
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Get to know each other before moving in
Before you even move in together, take time to get to know each other. If possible, meet up in person, but if you live too far away, consider video chatting. When you are talking, ask each other questions to get to know each other better and to find out what you have in common. This way, you will be able to get a sense of what the other person is like and what things you both value in life. It is important that you have at least some level of connection. If you are completely different with no common ground, it may be difficult to find a bond and get along.
Be friendly first
The best way to have a friend is to be a friend. It may be tempting to not talk a lot at first, especially if you are shy, but it is important to make an attempt to engage in conversation and be friendly so your roommate knows that you want to be friends. Ideally, you either met in person or talked online before moving in, so you have a basis of commonalities to draw from. Pull from things you remember about your roommate and have a conversation about that. Being able to recall details will let your roommate see that you care and will help build the relationship. However, it is also important to not overwhelm your roommate with cheerfulness and enthusiasm as this may come across as off-putting.
Go on roommate dates
Spending time with your roommate is a great way to get to know each other and become friends. Doing things that at least one of you is interested in will help you learn about each other. It gives you a chance to see each other in a more natural environment where you can shine with something you are passionate about. Take turns choosing what to do and make sure there is time to talk about the experience over a meal or coffee. Make sure you do things that you can both afford without going over your budgets. Try to set aside a day or evening once a week or once every couple of weeks to do something fun together.
Communicate
The best way to build a solid relationship is to have reliable communication. While you should be communicating with your roommate even without being friends, it is especially important to communicate if your goal is to be friends with your roommate. Make sure you are clear on each other’s schedules and know when you are each bringing people over to study or hang out. If either of you are having a problem or you are frustrated with each other, it is important to feel comfortable enough to bring it up with the other person. Otherwise, the person will hold it in, which will build resentment and can destroy the chance to build the friendship you are hoping for.
Establish boundaries
Even the best of friends have boundaries. The key with friends is that the boundaries are clearly established and both parties respect the other’s boundaries. Set clear boundaries and responsibilities with things like chores, shopping, and borrowing clothes or other items. It is also important that you are clear about the kind of relationship you want with your roommate. Be upfront about wanting to be friends so that you can meet this need if your roommate agrees. Not establishing a relationship or boundaries may lead to issues and arguments down the line. Again, communication is super important here.
Be honest
Whether you are having an issue with your roommate or you made a mistake in the relationship, it is important you are honest. Eventually, the truth will come out and your roommate will be even more mad that you kept something from them or even lied instead of bringing an issue up. This can lead to mistrust and difficulty in re-establishing a friendship. If you are good friends, you should be able to trust that they will want to hear the truth, even if it is difficult. Issues arise in every relationship and things come up that need to be worked through. This does not mean that you are not meant to be friends. Honestly dealing with issues will determine the future of your friendship with your roommate.
Roommate issues tend to be the main focus of college lore, but if the relationship starts strong and things are maintained as any other healthy relationship, it is possible to be friends with your roommate.
Roommate Survival Kit: Essential Items Every College Student Needs to Co-Exist Peacefully
Sharing a small space like a dorm with a roommate, whether you know them well or not, can be challenging. We have different lives, schedules, and habits which can be frustrating to deal with if you two clash. Luckily, it can be made a little easier when you purchase specific items. Here is a list of the must-have essential items every college student needs to co-exist peacefully with their roommates.
Whiteboard Calendar
One essential item to help you and your roommates co-exist peacefully is a whiteboard calendar or a regular whiteboard. A calendar allows you to put your class schedules especially when you are all first adjusting to the beginning of a semester. While you might not think you need your roommates’ schedule, it will be nice to know when you will have alone time in your dorm.
You can also use a calendar to circle important dates, such as deadlines or tests. This gives your roommate a heads up on when you might need some quiet time, so they don’t blast music or games throughout the whole day leading up to it. Of course, you will do the same when your roommate circles a big day. Whether you compromise on being quiet in the dorm or one of you heads out to the library or to hang out with other friends, it will help make boundaries clear.
If your calendar whiteboard has room or you get a regular whiteboard, you can use it to write reminders for each other, when you’ll be back if you’re out, or a chore chart.
Chore Chart
A chore chart may sound juvenile, but it is a key to co-existing with your roommate. If you like a clean room and your roommate doesn’t care about cleanliness, you might find their lack of work extremely frustrating. You two can create a chore chart together. Look around your dorm or apartment and see what needs to be done: Cleaning common spaces and bathrooms, taking the trash out, doing dishes, and more!
It should never be on one roommate to do everything around the dorm. You two are sharing the space, so you should contribute equally. You can choose specific chores for each person or rotate them each week or month if that feels more fair plus how often they should be done. Having this easily accessible and visible to both of you will increase the likelihood of them being completed. It may take some getting used to, but do not give up!
Noise Canceling Headphones
Another item you might want to look into purchasing is noise-canceling headphones for yourself. Sometimes, it may not be possible for your roommate to be quiet, especially depending on the kind of person they are. Plus, trekking to the library and back late at night is not something you’ll want to do often. Save yourself and buy a pair of noise-canceling headphones so you can focus in the comfort of your own room while also playing a nice motivating study playlist. You can also use them for long rides, going to the gym, or just a short walk to class making them well worth the money.
Room Dividers
You should also look into purchasing a room divider, ideally one that folds away. Dorm rooms are small and it might feel like you are on display and do not have privacy. By buying a room divider, you can set it up when you just want to exist without any major disturbances or discomfort. If this is your first time living with a roommate, this might be necessary to adjust to such a new living situation. When you want to chat or don’t mind your roommate’s presence, fold it and put it away! There are some pretty affordable and portable options. Speak with your roommate and maybe you two can split the cost, especially if it’s something you both want.
Dedicated Spaces for Each Roommate
Whether the space you’re sharing is one room or multiple, each roommate should have a dedicated space that is only theirs. Do not take things from these places, touch anything, or invade when not welcome. By having these spaces other people should not invade, it gives you a small oasis for yourself, as well as peace of mind. Respect everyone’s boundaries and your roommate should follow suit. This can be your bedroom if applicable, or only your bed, your desk area, or anywhere else you would prefer.
Communication
Lastly, while not an item, communication is essential to co-exist with any roommate. As lovely as it would be for your roommates to be able to read your mind and know when you want them to clean up after themselves, unfortunately, it is not possible. By speaking about and communicating your expectations verbally, not just on your whiteboard, your dorm will be much more peaceful and you will be able to co-exist with your roommate. Look into these essential items and see what works for you to have the best roommate experience.
Roommate Etiquette for the Holiday Season
It’s the holiday season and the festivities are in full swing. Traveling, shopping, hosting, baking, etc. This time of year is for celebrations, gatherings, spreading joy, and practicing roommate etiquette (of course). It’s a year-round job, and navigating during this season can be especially tricky. Crammed shared spaces, differing holiday traditions, obligations, and scheduling can all contribute to a roommate dispute. As you think thoughtfully and carefully about gifts and plans, we have done the same with this curated list of roommate etiquette tips for the holiday season.
1. Communicate while you celebrate
One of the most valued aspects of a harmonious roommate relationship is communication. Our routines are almost always disrupted during this season, and roles and responsibilities can change at home. You won’t hear someone complain about their roommate telling them something in advance, so do prioritize this discussion. If you expect to be gone for a long time or host your own guests, run it by your roommate beforehand. This may require routine changes to basic household chores like mail retrieval, garbage duty, plant maintenance, cleaning schedule, or any other responsibilities. The earlier, the better. Especially if you’re seeking a favor, like your roommate watching your pet for a few days or having extended family over for a night. This is not only the polite way to share a space but also gives the roommate plenty of time to make arrangements or modify their schedule.
A common mistake roommates make during the holiday season is overtaking the space. Yes, decorating is one of the pillars of Christmas time. But many cultures have different holiday traditions. Before you turn your casual living room into a gingerbread wonderland, ask your roommate what they are okay with. Roomies constantly get in tiffs around this time because they both want to make the space their own and forget that it is shared. Yet, it is so easy to avoid through communication.
2. Embrace different holiday traditions
As roommates, the closeness of relationships can vary significantly. Some range from knowing only each other’s names to knowing all personal information. Nonetheless, religious practices are often observed through holiday traditions around this time. To be considerate, host a time for an open discussion, whether a group chat or dinner table and discuss everyone’s holiday traditions in the space before the season begins. This allows everyone to coordinate and plan beforehand so no conflicts arise.
The purpose of this time of year is to bring people closer together and appreciate the unity of humanity. Try something new. Even if you have celebrated Christmas traditions your whole life, you can participate in other traditions, like Hanukkah and Kwanzaa. If your roommates share these activities, ask to be included and take this as an opportunity to simultaneously develop your friendship and cultural knowledge. Conduct a little background research to know what to expect if you choose to participate. Maybe you and your roomie(s) decide to celebrate collectively. Communities plan annual gatherings and countless activities to attend- simply visit your local city website to learn about the festivities.
3. Check in with your roommate’s mental health
The holidays can sometimes be a very challenging time of the year for people. Whether it be a traumatic life event, financial instability, seasonal depression, or loneliness- your roommate could be going through an emotionally daunting time. It is a good opportunity to check in and ask what they need to ensure they feel supported and cared for. Perhaps your roommate didn’t have nearby family members to celebrate with, and now they do because you asked. If you notice your roommate has been showing signs of seasonal depression or emotional distress, help them by providing outside resources like the phone number of a therapist or a local community support group. Although these efforts seem minimal, they could have long-lasting impacts. Alcohol and sugar addictions can spike during this time, so ensure you and your roommates are supporting each other through healthy habits despite the temptations.
The same goes for vice versa. If you are struggling during the holidays, use your roommate as a confidant and friend to support you. The worst thing you can do is bottle up your feelings; your roommates likely feel the same stressors and anxieties. A little empathy and honesty can go a long way for your roommate relationship to flourish.
Living with roommates during the holiday season can be a fun and comforting experience, but it requires a little extra care, consideration, and communication. By respecting shared spaces, being mindful of your roommates’ traditions, and doing some feeling check-ins, you can ensure that your home remains peaceful and enjoyable to celebrate the season. After all, the holidays are about connection and joy, and with proper etiquette, you can make this holiday season memorable.
Friendsgiving Traditions to Start With Your Roommate
Those who are close to their family homes will find it easy to go home for Thanksgiving. However, those who live farther away may have to stay in their dorm or off-campus housing for Thanksgiving break. While it can be frustrating and sad to not spend the holiday with loved ones, there are ways to have “Friendsgiving” traditions with your roommate.
Dining hall meals
A lot of schools will serve a Thanksgiving meal for those unable to go home for the holiday. Instead of sitting in your own living space, consider going to your dining hall to eat Thanksgiving there. This saves you time that would be spent prepping and cleaning up. You will also get to be with other people who are in a similar position to you. Many schools serve these meals for free and you can bring containers for leftovers, so you will have meals for days to come.
Potluck or group cooking
Thanksgiving can be a difficult meal to put together, especially if you are doing everything by yourself. Either have a potluck or invite a few people over to help you cook. If you decide to have a potluck, consider keeping track of who is planning to bring what to make sure everything needed is accounted for and so you know what you might have to make. Ask family or friends who are not hosting Thanksgiving to let you borrow silverware and plates so you have enough. Have your roommate help set up the table and clean up afterward.
Craft your décor
Buying Thanksgiving décor from the store may seem like a good idea, but it can get expensive. Chances are, you or your roommate have craft supplies that you can use to make your own décor. If you do need basic craft supplies, check your local thrift store before going to a craft store. Look for ideas online to see what you can make with what you have. Set aside a day to do your crafts. After you graduate, you will have Thanksgiving décor that you can take with you to help you remember the fun traditions you had with your roommate.
Football frenzy
One of the highlights of Thanksgiving for many people is the football. Make a tradition to either play a game of football or watch a game on TV. If you decide to play yourselves, see what teams are playing and play as those teams and watch the game on TV to see if the outcomes are similar. Get trophies or ribbons to give to the winning team as a reminder of the fun and their accomplishment. Have hot chocolate when you finish playing the game.
Turkey trot
If you and your roommate are into running or walks, look to see if your college town or city has a Turkey Trot or similar event on Thanksgiving. Many of these events support charities, so you can build a fun tradition that gives back. You can go train with your roommate, especially if your college has a gym on campus. Even when you graduate and move away, you can each do your own local Turkey Trot and keep each other accountable during training, and celebrate the success of completing it.
Volunteer
Even if you are not into running or walking, there are ways to give back on Thanksgiving. See if your local soup kitchen needs help serving meals on Thanksgiving and get involved with your roommate. Meals on Wheels may also need people to deliver meals, but this is mostly if you have a car on campus with you. You can even pick up trash at a local park or beach. There are organizations that accept cards for active military personnel and veterans, so you and your roommate can spend part of your Thanksgiving making cards to send to these organizations. Giving back is an amazing way to count your blessings and pay it forward for everything you are thankful for.
Gratitude traditions
Thanksgiving is all about being grateful for what you have and celebrating the little things in life. Consider starting a tradition of practicing gratitude on Thanksgiving. Get some construction paper and make a chain of paper, each strip of paper stating something you are thankful for. Even writing lists in a journal or a notebook can be beneficial. See who can create the longest list! Trace your hands and make a turkey. On the feathers and the body of the turkey, write out things you are grateful for. Date it and frame it as a keepsake for years to come. Before you start eating, go around the table and have each person share something they are grateful for. Write thank you notes to people who have influenced you in the past.
Spending Thanksgiving away from family and loved ones can be challenging, but you can create fun traditions with your roommate to help make the best of the situation.
Coordinating Group Halloween Costumes With Your Roommates
Happy Spooky Season! As you and your roommates prepare for Halloween parties or trick-or-treating, the idea of group costumes has likely come up! However, sometimes coordinating the perfect group costume to do with your friends is hard! After all, you want to be unique, but not so unique that no one knows who you are. In addition to that, there’s agreeing on who to be and how to dress, which is much easier said than done. Don’t get scared before the tricks start!
There are some easy steps to coordinate a group Halloween costume with your friends or your roommates that will leave everyone happy. Here is how to coordinate group Halloween costumes with your roommates this October.
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Discuss Favorite Media
First, discuss some of your favorite shows, movies, games, or books. If you all have similar interests or tastes, this will be easy! Think about iconic groups that you and your roommates would love to dress as. If you don’t share a common interest, your costume ideas do not have to be from the media! They can be groups such as condiments, college majors, or types of cats! This is the best time to get creative as you brainstorm!
If everyone is still having trouble coming up with a group costume you all like and agree on, there’s nothing wrong with searching the World Wide Web. Be aware that, if it’s online, it’s likely been done hundreds of times and you can risk having the same costume as someone else. This isn’t bad, but just decide how important originality is to you and your group.
Whether you have hundreds of ideas or just a few, start to narrow it down. You can do this by either having each roommate strike down one idea at a time until you have one left or you can spin a wheel to see what gets picked or knocked off. Even indecisive people can do this!
Share Pictures of Inspiration
Once you have all chosen a theme or group to dress as it is time to look at inspiration for your costumes. Search for other similar themes to see how you can put your own twist on it! This will also help get you on the same page of what aesthetic you’re going for this Halloween season. The best sites to search are Pinterest, Instagram, or a quick Google search which might lead you to another helpful site. Search for people who cosplay those characters or groups or see what kind of costumes are readily available.
Decide How to Dress
Now that you’ve looked at thousands of pictures for inspiration, you and your group have narrowed down how you want to look. You still need to decide how exactly you are going to proceed. Are you buying costumes, making them yourselves, or doing a very simple version in clothes you already have? This is an essential step so that everyone is on the same page and matches. If one of you shows up in street clothes while the other is in an elaborate costume, you’ll all be embarrassed!
If you decide to buy or make your costumes, you need to discuss everyone’s budget. Someone with a higher budget can buy a much higher quality costume than someone with a lower one, which can lead to financial insecurity and embarrassment. Go back to the pictures you found and try to guess the price or what you could reasonably find or make.
Make Roles Clear
Next, you need to make the roles in the group costume very clear. So many group costumes have been ruined because two people thought they were the same character! Everyone should decide who they want to be. If two people want to dress as the same character, it needs to be clear who takes what so you don’t have a sticky situation. The best way to do this would be to write it out in a group text or hang it up and ensure everyone sees it by interacting with the message or the board.
Keep Each Other Updated
Lastly, as you all work on your costumes, you need to keep each other updated. If you need help, if something is not shipping in time, or any other problems you run into, it is best that you tell your roommates right away. If you need to switch costumes, it is better to have a few days’ notice than an hour’s.
By showing each other the steps you’re following into completing your costume, you can get feedback or advice so that you guys match. Plus, this helps with the potential double or mismatched costumes. It might even be a fun idea to work on your costumes together while you play Halloween movies and eat candy. What better way to prepare for the season, right?
6 Tips to Vibe Better Your New Roommate
Roommates. We need and appreciate them, but the experience with new ones can be unpredictable. Some people create lifelong friendships, while others avoid each other at all costs. A common challenge among college students, a recent Georgetown University study indicated that 1 in 3 college students in the US have reported roommate problems. If you are on the ladder end and are not vibing well with yours, don’t contact your student services department just yet. We have created this list of tips to up the vibes and create harmony in your space with no confrontation needed.
1. Accept your differences and similarities
Let’s face it, it is impossible to have commonalities with everyone. That is the beauty of life, but it can be tricky when you live with someone completely opposite to you. In times when compromise is necessary, like decorating or lifestyle habits, it is best to accept your differences through respect for each other. You decorate your side to your liking, and they do the same. They listen to their music through headphones, and you do the same. You get the idea. If the vibes aren’t right because of your differences, it is time to consider stepping outside your comfort zone.
2. Join online support groups
It may sound bizarre, but online support groups are a great resource for seeking advice for unique roommate situations. You may be surprised to find out that someone could be experiencing the exact same. They are also useful in making new friends in your area and discovering new places you and your roommate can explore. Of course, putting things into perspective doesn’t hurt either. There are plenty of roommate horror stories that will make you feel better about your current roomie, even if you aren’t particularly vibing with each other.
3. Discuss proper living etiquette
Speaking of respect, it is crucial to establish proper living etiquette while rooming together. Rinse and load the dishes you use, replace the toilet paper when it’s empty, put the seat down after using the bathroom, keep the space tidy, and agree on dividing household chores. On the surface, these should be common sense. However, some people need a reminder every once in a while. Don’t be afraid to either leave a few sticky note reminders around the space or send a quick text if your roommate is not doing their part.
4. End the situation-ship
Maybe you aren’t vibing with your roommate because the relationship has become a bit complicated. Whether you had a few arguments or had an accidental hookup, complicated situation-ships can transpire quickly and be very awkward. The best plan of action is to address the elephant in the room and squash any beef. (P.S. If you haven’t yet but are considering it, this is your reminder it is never a good idea to pursue a romantic relationship with a roommate.)
5. It doesn’t hurt to share
Chances are you will inevitably share some items with your roommate. It may be a pair of jeans, shampoo, or some seasoning. It is one of the many expectations when living with a roommate. If you can’t pinpoint the cause of the weird vibes, it could be that you have yet to have this conversation. Nobody is eager to share items they paid for, but this is one of those situations where the phrase, “pick your battles” applies. You don’t have to share personal items, but it is always nice for common household items. You can even establish financial responsibility for replacing shared-purchased items such as toilet paper or hand soap.
6. Embrace the situation
For as much as you try, you may not be able to clear the air and vibe perfectly with your roommate. In situations you can’t control, it is a good practice to take things less personally. Okay, your roommate is rude or doesn’t hold themselves to the same cleaning standards; that is not your problem or your responsibility. The most you can do is communicate. If you work on focusing less on the annoyances, you might feel a little more peace with the circumstances. On the flip side, if you find yourself in a situation where you are feeling unsafe with a roommate, you must act on it and there may be resources available to you to help.
The weird roommate vibes don’t have to be permanent. After you consider implementing these tips into your routine, you should hopefully see some improvements and maybe even a friendship in the future. At the end of the day, your roommates for a reason. You might not be each other’s cup of tea, but you’re still doing each other a favor. Remember to remain optimistic; this is only a temporary situation. Once you implement the basics of respect and communication, the rest will come easily.
Best Apps For Living With Roommates
Whether you are living with a roommate for the first time or have had roommates in the past, rooming with someone else comes with challenges. From chores and shopping to paying rent, it can be difficult to navigate various aspects of living with roommates. Luckily, there are phone apps that can help bring peace and harmony to your living situation.
Splitwise
One of the most challenging parts of living with roommates is splitting finances, from groceries to rent. Splitwise is an app that is available on both Android and Apple phones. It allows you and your roommates to create a group to track who owes what. The app also sends email notifications to remind roommates who owes what amount. You can split the costs however you decide, reducing the stress of calculating the numbers yourselves. The app even allows you to track recurring expenses. The basic app is free, but you can upgrade to the pro version for even more features.
IOU
As a college student, you have a lot going on and have a lot to keep track of. This means that you may find it difficult to remember that you owe your roommate money. Your roommate may also forget that they owe you money as well. IOU allows you to keep track of the debts that are owed to you as well as the debts you owe. The app is free and is available on Android and Apple phones. Forgetting debts can cause issues between roommates, so having an app to remind you will help reduce stress and drama.
OurGroceries
Grocery shopping is challenging enough when you have to do it for yourself. Adding roommates into the mix makes it even more difficult, especially with different wants and needs when it comes to food and meals. It can also be difficult to keep track of what you run out of. OurGroceries allows you and your roommates to create a collective shopping list for everything you all want and need when you go shopping. If only one of you is going shopping, the other can even add items to the list when you are at the store! The app is free and is available on Android and Apple devices.
Venmo
Venmo is an app that allows you to send and receive money easily. It is similar to PayPal in many ways. This app is helpful if you owe your roommate money or vice versa. You can link your bank account or credit card to the app to transfer money. It is easier than worrying about having cash or checks on hand to give to roommates. It is available on Apple and Android phones.
TinyScan
As a college student, you will likely have a lot of important documents, especially if you are living in a rental property. TinyScan turns your phone into a scanner to help organize and digitize these documents. You will want, and need, documents such as leases and roommate agreements readily accessible so you can access them as you need them. TinyScan allows you to have them in a digital form so you do not have to dig through paper files to find what you are looking for.
Listonic
Like OurGroceries, Listonic allows you and your roommates to create a community shopping list that can be accessed from any device. The app automatically sorts the items in your list. You can also create lists for special occasions. The basic version of the app is free to use. However, the app does have a subscription fee that removes ads and unlocks more features. Listonic is available on both Android and Apple devices.
Cozi
Cozi is an Apple and Android app that lets you keep in touch with your roommates and organize various aspects of your lives. It helps organize activities, to-do lists, grocery lists, and more. It is a great tool to help organize chores as well. The app even has a section that has recipes and a journal. Cozi is free for the basic version and Cozi Gold has a fee that unlocks even more features to help you and your roommates stay organized and connected.
Tody
Your parents may have made you a chore chart when you were growing up, but as an adult, it can be overwhelming. Tody allows you to make a streamlined chores list for you and your roommates to share. You can create tasks with varying frequencies and sort tasks by room. The app allows you to schedule tasks and even send reminders. Tody is available on both Android and Apple devices. It is a free app, but there is a premium version that you can use.
Staying organized while living with roommates can be difficult. Luckily, there are a variety of apps that allow you to stay organized and communicate effectively with roommates.
Tips on How to Solve Any Roommate Disagreements
Conflict between roommates can be extremely difficult to navigate. Unfortunately, living in close quarters with another person can easily lead to disagreements over something that seems so trivial. Roommate disagreements not only negatively affect your personal relationship with the roommate, but can also negatively affect how comfortable you feel in your own living space as you live with the person while you are trying to navigate whatever dispute you find yourselves in.
Keep reading for tips on how to solve any roommate disagreements and help maintain a peaceful and comfortable living space for all roommates.
Don’t brush things under the rug
If you or your roommate are the type of person who is more likely to be avoidant at any sight of conflict, roommate disagreements can easily escalate. Between friends or peers, brushing over a disagreement can work if the source of the disagreement is somewhat trivial and likely won’t come up again. Between roommates, however, disagreements can come up time and time again over the same issue or build up into a larger argument.
Don’t brush things under the rug when it comes to roommate disagreements. Even if the disagreement is small, take the time to address it between roommates while everyone is in a calm state of mind and can come to the discussion with a clear head.
If you continuously brush disagreements under the rug, they may only come out when one roommate has finally had enough and brings them all up with plenty of anger and frustration. If they feel like they’ve been slighted over and over again, they may come into a discussion more hostile than friendly, and be less likely to see the other side of the argument. Taking the time to navigate disagreements, no matter how small they may seem, will establish respect and understanding between roommates. Setting a precedent like this can help make future disagreements easier to address and navigate if you’ve already done it before.
Be Proactive and hold roommate meetings
When you first moved in with your roommates, you likely all got together to discuss your expectations for your roommates and the living space you share. You likely discussed cleaning, guest policies, quiet hours – things that typically can cause roommate disagreements.
The initial house rules shouldn’t be the end-all discussion for rules, but just a basis for your time living together. Routines and expectations can shift, and allowing your roommates to discuss changes needed for your shared space can help prevent or solve any disagreements.
Schedule regular meetings with roommates – it can be something as simple as a shared meal where everyone can sit down and chat about anything of concern.
Allow these meetings to be an open floor for any roommate to bring up something that has been bothering them and use the time to discuss how to solve the issue at hand. This can help roommates who feel unsure of the best time to bring up an issue, or allow them to bring up an issue at a time where they feel more calm than when the issue first popped up.
Seek the common ground
Depending on the disagreement, one roommate can be on one side of an issue with another roommate on the complete opposite side of an issue. Picking one side of an issue over the other can lead to a very upset roommate that feels like their side was left ignored, and can leave the disagreement feeling unsolved even if you feel like picking a side effectively should have ended the disagreement.
There’s a large chance the roommate who didn’t get their way still feels the same way about the issue as they did prior to the disagreement coming up, so the agreed upon solution may just be prolonging the disagreement until it comes up again.
To avoid this, look at the issue at hand to identify a common ground you can land on. Sure, neither roommate are getting their ideal outcome, but both parties will have to agree to lose out on a little bit so they can gain a compromise on the issue. The outcome may take some getting used to if it’s something they weren’t expecting, but it can help everyone feel like their opinion was taken into consideration and respected.
Involve a third party
If you find yourself in a disagreement where neither party looks like they are willing to come to a compromise, it’s time to seek a third part for mediating. If you are living in student housing, a mediatir can be your resident advisor, or it can be a mutual friend. Avoid having someone that is entirely one person’s connection if you or your roommates feel like that person is more prone to taking their closer friend’s side.
Pick a mediator that can help see everyone’s side and help guide the discussion as you navigate the disagreement.
Roommate disagreements are bound to happen at one point during your time together. With these tips in mind, you can help everyone navigate through disagreements and come to a solution.
Budgeting Tips for Living With a Roommate
Budgeting can be so hard! After all, you have already taken the ultimate budget tip by living with a roommate. Still, there are other things you and your roommate or roommates can do to help your budget even further. It might seem like the best thing to do is to split everything in half, but this is not always the case. In fact, you could be losing a lot of money that you do not even realize. Here are the best budgeting tips for living with a roommate that just might end up saving you hundreds.
Finding the right roommate
If you do not have a roommate yet, one of the best things for a budget is to find the right roommate. Find someone who is responsible with their money and has a good history of paying bills on time. After all, if they are late on payments and rely on you to cover for them, you will have to save even more money in an attempt to save your butts which can cause a lot of stress. If you already have a roommate, let’s hope they are a good one! If you are struggling, now is the time to have a conversation about the following tips so that you can save money and budget better.
Take salary into consideration
One of the best things you can do is compare salaries or wages to decide how much you both should be paying in bills like rent, electricity, or more. Most people decide to split rent in half, but if one roommate makes double or triple the other, it is best for both of you to split the bills not equally, but equitably. For example, rent can be one-third of what each roommate makes. That way, it is not a bigger deal for one roommate or the other and you can each budget accordingly for your remaining salary. Not everyone will be in favor of spending more on rent, but an open conversation may lead to something in everybody’s best interests. If your budget is tight, even just a small percentage less of rent can help with everything.
Talk about groceries
When you go grocery shopping, do not just split the bill in half and call it a day. You should only pay for what you are using. A gallon of milk that you both use? Sure! But your roommate’s box of slim jims that they use for late-night snacking? You should not be paying half of that! This is not to say that you should only buy things that you need. If someone is going grocery shopping, there is no harm in picking up everything needed for the apartment, but keep that receipt! Go through and split what is yours, your roommates, and communal. Request the money for your roommate’s items and half of what you share. That way, you are not paying for groceries you do not use.
If that is too difficult, there are alternatives. You can take turns grocery shopping and call it even so long as you are both contributing equally.
Create a joint budget
While shopping, you might both have different ideas of what to grab. When toilet paper is on the list, are you both grabbing one that costs the same, or is one of you grabbing something more expensive? Even if you split the cost of something like that, pennies add up and can end up pushing you over your budget. Agree on how much you are okay to spend on groceries that you split, cleaning supplies, and other things you two may share. If someone wants to go over the joint budget, that is then their responsibility.
Discuss what not to share
Even though you and your roommates might be using something, there is not always an obligation for both of you to pay. For instance, a new TV or a new furniture item. If one of you buys it but plans to take it when the lease is up, then they should be the one to fully cover the cost. Do not pay for something you will be losing in a year!
Record all payments
Lastly, the best budgeting tip not just for your household but for you is to keep track of what you are spending and where. Whether this is an app, a spreadsheet with names, dates, costs, and what you buy, or a jar where you keep receipts and go over them at the end of the month, you need to keep track of everything. This way, you can see what might need to be cut going further or what you are paying for that you are not using.
With these tips in mind, budgeting will not be easy, but it will be easier. You and your roommate can do this and save money together while also sticking to your respective budgets.
